I would define resistance as that reluctance to do something you actually want to do or something that would move you further towards one of your goals. It feels counter-intuitive to back away from something you want but we are all complex, our motivations aren’t always straightforward and fears, whether we recognise them or not, can manifest themselves in our actions.
If you find yourself resisting a positive change or action, examine the cause. Is it that you don’t know how to take it forward? Does the step seem too big? Do you lack the tools or resources you think you need?
Are you focussed on the action or is your goal nebulous and difficult to clarify? Wanting to get fit is too large and general a goal, resistance will be the simple result of not having thought through where or how to begin. Deciding you would like to jog 3 mornings a week and making a plan as to the time, the place, what you’ll wear and how you’ll fit the rest of your morning routine about it is a far more specific goal, to which you can direct positive actions.
Also ask yourself why you want to make this step or work towards this particular target. If you aren’t clear on why you are doing something, motivation will be heard to maintain and fear can seep in. Is this something you want or something that someone else says you should want? Who are you doing it for? If it isn’t for you, then carefully think why you are doing this at all.
Does some reflection help address your resistance? Write it in a paper or online journal, or talk to someone, you may find that the solution to your resistance appears as your thoughts take shape.
Do you still have any fear of taking the steps you need to? Of what you might find out about yourself, others or situations? Of what might happen if you took those steps? Are you fearful that you will do it and fail? Or even that you do it and succeed?
Success might be a scary thought, either to you or those closest to you. How might your life change if you had the energy that comes from being fit and healthy? If yoga or meditation or regular quiet time gave you the space to think and calm your thoughts, bringing you peace of mind? If you acquired the confidence a new qualification or job or business gave you?
So think through the consequences for your particular circumstances. Only you can know but is it better to try and fail, than not try at all and live with regret? If you succeed, it may be scary but is it better to learn to live with the fear than regret not having tried?
Time is short and life is precious. Resistance can be moved through, step by step and moment by moment. A small step in the right direction is better than nothing. Try it and see.